In the book Mindset, Dr. Carol Dweck shares a lifetime of research that she has conducted which gives some major insights into what creates the difference in people’s ability to grow their potential. In more cases than at first thought, high achievers are not the naturally gifted, they are the people that have grinded it out, stayed the course listened to feedback and adjusted their approach on their way to accomplishment in their chosen discipline.
Contract this Growth Mindset with what Dr. Dweck calls a Fixed Mindset. It is a person’s reluctance to accept feedback as they infer that if they are given feedback it is a sign that they are not good enough. As irrational as it is I think with honest reflection you may find that in some areas you have a growth mindset while in other areas a fixed mindset is present.
9 Steps to Magnetically Attract Positivity in Your Life.
Posted: August 24, 2023
9 Steps to Magnetically Attract Positivity in Your Life.
One of my mentors tells a story of a boy coming home from school, walking into his house and greeting his dad with, “Dad, I flunked my math test today. The dad, trying to teach his son to look on the bright side of things, said “son, rather than think negative, you need to be more positive” the son replied, “Dad, I’m positive I flunked my math test”.
How many people are truly able to naturally look at things in a positive way? I’m not sure, but my guess is for the vast majority, it takes a bit of focus and self discipline. Why bother? Well, think how much better you would be at everything you do, if you trained yourself to have a great attitude toward life, learning and the inevitable challenges you will face everyday! Self Defense isn’t just about physically knowing how to defend against punches and kicks, it’s also about becoming the kind of person who isn’t going to attract someone to want to punch and kick them.
The Benefits of Teaching Children About Giving Back
Posted: August 07, 2023
5 Benefits of teaching children about giving back
1. Nurture Kindness and Compassion
One of the most rewarding parts of being a parent or caregiver is watching your little one grow into a kind and caring person. Most young children are naturally kind and eager little helpers. However, anyone who has raised a toddler will probably agree that they can also be incredibly selfish – but it’s not their fault! – and that’s actually backed by many scientific studies.
Stacking versus Non-Stacking
Posted: August 01, 2023
Parents, do you often hear other parents say, "Brayden loves his classes once he's at them. After class he talks about how great it was and he always leaves with big smile on his face. But sometimes, I have a hard time getting him to his classes. Brayden's watching TV or a friend asks him to play or he's in the middle of a game and he gives me a hassle about coming to class.”
Child psychologists call this being "Present Oriented" and it's typical in young children. They don't want to break away from what they are doing now, no matter what! They have not learned the concept we like to call "Stacking". If you spot any signs of this type of behavior here is a nice conversation to have with your child.
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How to Make Health and Wellness part of your Families Lifestyle
Posted: July 26, 2023
As adults, we are responsible for our lifestyle choices and in many cases, our children’s lifestyles. Whether or not our children get enough exercise and eat healthy foods has a lot to do with the example we set for them and the choices we provide them with.
According to USA Today, the percentage of children who are overweight has doubled in the last 20 years! But don’t blame the kids. Keith Ayoob, an associate Professor of pediatrics at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine says, “I never see a child who has better eating habits than his parents.” Children eat the foods that are served to them or what is easily available at school or home. Family rules and routines can compromise exercise any time they like, but an eight-year-old more than likely requires supervision. Children have obstacles to overcome when it comes to lifestyle choices.
Success for children begins with success for parents. Families need to begin establishing lifestyle goals together. Leonard Epstein, professor of Pediatrics at the University of Buffalo, says. “Most of the kids who are overweight have at least one overweight parent.”