"If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.” - Nelson Mandela
With the passing of Nelson Mandela recently, it seems appropriate to highlight some of his philosophies. And while we will most likely never be called on to free a nation, his quote above can have impact for each of us in our daily lives. How many of us take the time to think through the language that will most easily be understood by the people we are communicating with?
Most of the time conflict seems to stem more from a perception someone has of the way we speak rather than the content of what we say. Taking time to show this level of respect for the people we are communicating with increases the rapport we will have with them and our chance for a positive outcome.
It’s not about the bed
Posted: December 26, 2017
Having a front row seat to some phenomenal parents over the past 20 years at Personal Best Karate has reinforced a lot to me. One of the most valuable items has been the concept of the routine. Students of all ages who grow and progress in our program often do so because they have made their martial arts training a way of life. They schedule the time to train on a regular basis, and although they have a choice to come any of six days a week, most adhere to their predetermined schedule. If their routine is Monday and Wednesday for their classroom training they stick to it. Because of this there is no energy wasted in thinking, “when will I train this week”, they “set it and forget it”
Simple acts of daily routines can also create positive life habits. Since the beginning of Personal Best Karate I have advocated the habit of making your bed in the morning. The reason is that it takes personal discipline to do so. I believe that self discipline is like a muscle in that the more you use it, the bigger and stronger it grows; conversely, the less you use it the weaker it becomes. In the long run, it is well worth the energy it takes to put your success habits and the success habits of your children on automatic pilot. You can start with simple tasks like making your bed then extend it to exercise, nutrition or whatever else you value. What you choose is up to you, it’s about being the very best you can be, it’s not about the bed.