Personal Best: Helping Your Child Become the Best Version of Themselves
Posted: January 15, 2025
In today’s fast-paced and highly connected world, it’s easy for children—and even adults—to fall into the trap of comparing themselves to others. As parents, we want to guide our children toward developing a mindset that isn’t focused on being better than someone else, but rather on being the best version of themselves. This idea of achieving their “Personal Best” can be simple to understand in theory but challenging to practice in reality.
The Challenge of Comparison
Daily decisions, for both children and adults, are often influenced—consciously or unconsciously—by comparisons to others. Whether it’s wanting the latest gadget because a friend has it, or pursuing a hobby based on how others might perceive it, external influences can cloud personal desires and goals. As parents, it’s important to help our children become aware of these influences and encourage them to dig deeper into their motivations.
Starting the Conversation
Having open and reflective conversations with your child can help them better understand their motives. Consider asking thought-provoking questions like:
- Do you want this because it will truly make you happy, or because your friend has it?
- Are you joining this activity because you’re passionate about it, or because you think others will admire you for doing it?
- Where did you first see or hear about this? Why is it important to you?
These questions aren’t meant to criticize but to encourage self-reflection. By exploring the “why” behind their decisions, children begin to develop the ability to identify their true interests and values, separate from external pressures.
The Power of Self-Awareness
Taking action—whether it’s buying something, pursuing an activity, or working toward self-improvement—is never inherently wrong. However, when children understand the motivations behind their actions, they gain clarity and confidence in their decision-making. This process of self-awareness not only helps them make better choices now but also lays the groundwork for thoughtful and intentional decision-making in adulthood.
Building a Strong Foundation
Helping your child focus on their “Personal Best” isn’t about isolating them from outside influences; it’s about teaching them to balance those influences with their internal desires and values. By guiding them to ask questions, reflect on their motives, and understand their true goals, you’re empowering them to build a strong, resilient foundation for the future.
Ultimately, the journey to achieving their Personal Best starts with learning who they are and what truly matters to them. And as parents, we have the unique opportunity to walk alongside them, offering guidance, support, and encouragement as they grow into the best version of themselves.
Chris Rappold is the founder of Personal Best Karate, an organization dedicated to fostering confidence, discipline, and lifelong fitness in individuals of all ages. His passion for personal development and community impact has made him a trusted resource for parents, educators, and professionals seeking strategies to inspire growth and resilience.
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